Wednesday, February 1, 2012
How to tackle bedtime...
As I continue to work on my blog and get it ready for it’s big opening I took some time to post about how single parenthood his going. A chapter I will blog about is bedtime.
Every since Quinn has been staying with me bedtime was always an issue. She never wants to go to bed or when she does she gets up and tries to come downstairs or go in my bed. I usually let he stay up with me a little just because I know she doesn’t see me that much and we deserve some bonding time but bedtime is bedtime! After I get her ready and read a book I usually rock a little and then put her down.
Typically a few times a night she gets up and asks me if she can go in my bed. I tell her she needs to be in her bed. I continue to do this even if it takes a couple times. Eventually she does listen and fall asleep. It can’t be easy having two beds, one at moms, and one at dads. I can’t imagine what she is going through even though she is young and doesn’t fully understand what is going on.
Usually I wake up to her by my bed or I hear her whimpering in her room. This for a single dad that never really see’s here child is just heartbreaking… I don’t know how else to say it. I lie in bed and wonder does she need to be in her bed to get her used to it? Is sleeping next to me going to spoil her? I wonder, but I usually call out, “Quinn” and I hear this sweet little “Yea” I go “you wanna lay with dad?” Then she goes “Yea”… Your child is your life and when they come trotting in your heart just melts…
This little person just wants to be next to you because they love you so much. When they come in holding their little bunny and blanket your can’t help but melt. She jumps up and lies down and is such a little happy person. She is so happy to be hanging out with her dad… She then gives some orders like “ok daddy you sleep” haha so she jumps in bed next to me and now gives orders? Haha sure ok…
I try to at least have her start off in her bed and stay as long as I can because I am trying to get her used to her room but I also know one day she will want to go straight to her room and not pay attention to me so I like to take advantage of just spending time with my daughter while I can.
So some tips and tricks I offer are. Get your child ready for bed and make sure they know they have to go up. Get them ready and make it fun. Be excited about brushing your teeth and reading books. Rock with them and hold them if you have a rocker. The closer they child gets to be with you like holding and rocking the closer and more comforting they are.
When or if you go back downstairs or in another room keep the music or TV low and just keep an ear out. If they get up bring them back and just advise they have to sleep in their bed. Or if you want tell them its to early to go to your bed. Or that they start in their bed. Keep doing this till they fall asleep. Now if you have your child more you may want to have them in their bed more often but for the parents that don’t get to see their kids as much, well I usually advise more leeway is okay. J I mean if its going to be days till you see your child again this is nothing wrong with you spending time with them…
Find your nitch and let me know any tips or pointers you have! I would love to share them.
You are never alone.