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Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Happy Halloween!

Hello all!

     We hope everyone had a fun and save Halloween!  We didn't have Quinn tonight and she was sad per  she loves passing out candy!  We spent some time this past weekend going around and visiting family.  We get Quinn a costume every year and she loves it.

     We picked her up on Friday and then got her costume!  She picked it out her self, she was a Vampire!  Saturday we spend some time relaxing per Quinn was fighting a bit of a cold but she did good and pushed through.  We stopped over my parents house for some pictures and some treats.  Quinn spent sometime showing off her costume to them and they gave her some fun things.

     We then headed to my Aunts house for some treats and a few pictures.  We spent sometime just visiting there with her as well.

     We ended up having a lot of fun and Quinn knows next year we do have her on Halloween but we just do what we can and thats what parents that share kids do!  We spent the night just passing out candy and hanging it.  After all it was cold and only a Tuesday.

We hope everyone had a fun Halloween!

Always Remember,
You are Never Alone...

Love,
Christopher


 

Monday, October 30, 2017

A Hard Decision

      Over the past many years of my now life I've always wanted a family.  As I grew up and went through school I found many people I could have spend my life with.  Some better than others for me and as I grew through College and my ego grew I can say I let more of the good ones go but that is why we learn I guess.

     I eventually settled down and had Quinn and after a year or so that marriage ended.  The divorced ruined me and starting over was not impossible but close.  After even getting back on my feet and realizing the relationship was over and never fixable I even tried dating again.  I then met Kayla who has been so amazing to me.  She came into my and Quinn's life, she took her in and treated her like her own.  She has helped raise her as well as work with my Ex.  Quinn has grown to love her so much and through out the years we have been together Kayla and I have worked so hard when the odds were against us.

      We discussed marriage and kids and finally just got married sooner than later.  We didn't need a long engagement.  We both knew what we wanted that was us.  She told me she would marry me with or without kids.

       The past sever years have tested us still  and yesterday I just finally made the decision that I don't want anymore kids.  We have had some very tiring weekends with Quinn that usually make us laugh and say hell no to kids.  She was pretty good this weekend, she is beyond spoiled by her Mom and that will make her live difficult which I feel bad for her.  However she gave Kayla such a hard time Saturday even Kayla said she was done and doesn't want any.

     I talked to Kayla last night and she said she was fine with that.  I told her if she ever wanted kids and I didn't she could leave me it was fine.  I think a combination of Quinn just being a hard child because how her Mom does everything for her, the fact that I see my friends with their new babies and laugh saying better you than me.  Also we just economically will never will be there, I pay my Ex to much to recover and we have our own house and debt to fill so even having a child would kill us financial.  Day care is the biggest rip off and we will never afford it.  I will admit how terrible it is there are people having 9 kids with 7 woman and I can't even have more than one because I have to be responsible and make sure bills are paid and my one child has a good life before having more.  Guess that's how it goes. 

     I recently spoke to a friend about kids and asked him if he ever will have more.  He told me honestly his two little ones were good and now that they are little ones he is just past the whole bottle and getting up stage.  I can't lie, I don't think I can go back to getting up 8 times a night or changing diapers.  It was 9 years ago and honestly it feels like forever. 

     The one big thing however is Kayla and I love our weekends off!  When it is not our weekend to have Quinn we sleep in, rest just do whatever we want and it feels so good.  There are some weekends Quinn drains us and we need that weekend off.  I won't like when we visit people with kids and the kids are upset or crying or the parents look like they wanna run away, Kayla and I laugh and say, "Well we gotta go, no Quinn this weekend we're sleeping in!"  It is funny I will admit.  Now I am not saying we aren't having kids because of Quinn, however because of how she is being raised and I can't fix that it is a factor yest absolutely. 

     I will admit we may have them, but as of now it is looking very slim.  Honestly right now I'm just to tired, poor and over kids to want or have them.  However that might change somehow or day but at this point I just don't see it happening.  Our lives will go on and Kayla told me that it doesn't matter and she will be with me kids or not.  We have Quinn and for now that's all we need...

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Always Remember,

You are Never alone...

Love,
Christopher
 

Sunday, October 15, 2017

Happy Birthday Christopher!!!

Hi all!

            Kayla here! I'm a little late with this post but I wanted to take the time to write a post for Chris' birthday! It's been a little hectic this fall season so at least I'm only a couple days late! Chris's birthday was Friday October 13th! He always writes posts about everyone else, I couldn't let him write one for his own birthday.

            First off I want to say what an amazing father and husband he is. He always tries to please and make everyone happy no matter what. Friday he worked a half day and came to have lunch with me at my work! Again, always doing things for other people. It should of been me going to him on his birthday! We got Quinn Friday and ordered a fish fry! We then carved her pumpkin and watched Goosebumps. We both gave Chris his birthday presents and relaxed the rest of the evening.

            He wanted a low key weekend and that's what I gave him. This year has proven to have some struggles but also some of the best memories. With all that has gone on in my life recently, he has been there for me the entire time. He never questioned when I was quiet and would just hold me under his arm. Chris never let me down even when things seemed to be at their worst. He talked to me, he would listen, he would drive around in silence. There was nothing he wouldn't do. He did this all while fighting something of his own and he continues to do so.

             Sometimes I wonder how I got so lucky. I used to dream about the perfect man in my life and what God gave me was so much better. I can never imagine my life differently. Both him and Quinn have made my life whole. I never thought I could love someone so much and then Chris entered my life.

              So, I guess I'll close this with a special happy birthday to my favorite guy.


            Happy Birthday Christopher!! I hope you had a good weekend and I hope I was able to make your day as special as you are. This year will turn around and it will be one of the best! I love you more than I can put into words! 




Always remember,
You're never alone...

Kayla

Sunday, October 1, 2017

Happy Birthday Quinn!

     Today is Quinns 9th Birthday!  How she has grown, it has just been amazing.  The past 7 years I have been in our home and divorced she has done so well.  We both have come such a long way and when her birthday comes it is always a special event. 


     We celebrated this weekend over a few days!  Friday we had some family and friends come over and we had some dinner and cake, had some presents and just all around fun.  Quinn had a friend over and it was just nice to have someone here per the last several were just family so I know she wanted someone her age.

     Saturday we had some other family over as well as friends of ours, we did another spread of food for her and some more cake even!  All in all we had a lot of fun and I just can't believe she is 9.  Sunday we celebrated by making her breakfast and then giving her a gift from Kayla and I.  We also took her out to celebrate Fall!  We got her pumpkin and some fall treats.  That post will come soon! 

     All in all we just had so much fun, we ate, talked and just enjoyed our time with the Birthday Girl.  She is growing up so fast and we are so proud of her.  Next year it will be the big 10!!  For now I tell her just enjoy 9 and have fun. 

   
     As she grows up I hope she enjoys this time as a kid and all we give her. I know one day she will grow up and want to be with her friends more than she will want to see us, but for now its us in her life she wants to see and I'll take that. 

     For now, stay young and have fun Quinn...
Happy Birthday Quinn!

     Always Remember,
You are Never Alone...

Love,
Christopher